Will The Real Victim Please Stand Up? And Post Separation Financial Abuse
In today’s episode, Loraine is exploring two crucial topics to do with the aftermath of leaving a narcissistic relationship behind. First, she explores the complexities of identifying the real victim in a narcissistic relationship, shedding light on the manipulative tactics of narcissists and the challenges faced by survivors of abuse. Loraine then discusses post-separation financial abuse, highlighting the implications of the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 in the UK and the various forms of economic manipulation and control that can persist even after a relationship ends.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
True victims of narcissistic abuse may exhibit symptoms like anxiety, insomnia, and post-traumatic stress, while false victims may appear calm and detached, often moving on quickly to new relationships.
The Domestic Abuse Act 2021 in the UK recognizes post-separation financial abuse as a form of domestic abuse, including behaviours like economic control, employment sabotage, and accumulating debt in the survivor’s name.
Survivors can seek protection under the Domestic Abuse Act by obtaining a Domestic Abuse Protection Order (DAPO) to prohibit specific behaviours related to post-separation financial abuse, with breaches of the order considered a criminal offence.
Family courts have enhanced powers to address financial consequences of domestic abuse, such as transferring tenancies or ownership of property, varying maintenance orders, and providing financial compensation to survivors.
Encouraging open conversations, providing supportive services and helplines, and offering financial empowerment programs can empower survivors to gain financial independence and break free from the cycle of post-separation financial abuse.
BEST MOMENTS
“I believe all domestic abusers are narcissistic, without exception. The capacity to tell someone, I love you, I’m going to care for you, we’re in a relationship, then emotionally, physically, or sexually assault them. That’s zero empathy.”
“Survivors of any form of domestic abuse, including emotional and psychological abuse, will be left mourning the loss of their relationship. A survivor will be grieving they will be more isolated from the family and friends that they shared with the narcissist.”
“Survivors should be supported to gain financial independence, to feel empowered and to rebuild their lives on their terms, unencumbered by financial shackles of an abusive past.”
Articles referred to in this Episode
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Equality Now – Weaponsing Defamation
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Lee vs Brown – UK Defamation Judgement
https://www.casemine.com/judgement/uk/62cc6f60b50db97b28b75e9e
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HOST BIO
Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020.
Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D’s in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship.
Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.
