7 Stages To Rebuild Your Relationship
In this episode, Loraine discusses an article she wrote in January 2018, which holds significant importance to her. The article was written during a period of shock and grief after her partner confessed to infidelity and cheating. Loraine shares a powerful meme that resonated with her emotions at the time and delves into the seven stages of rebuilding a relationship after such a betrayal. They explore topics such as taking responsibility, cutting off contact with the outside person, proving that the cheating has stopped, and the importance of open communication and forgiveness. The episode also touches on the challenges of healing and moving forward, as well as the need for support and resources in navigating the aftermath of infidelity.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Rebuilding a relationship after infidelity requires both partners to take responsibility for their actions. The cheating partner must accept 100% responsibility for their actions and recognize the pain they have caused.
Cutting off all contact with the outside person is crucial for rebuilding trust. The cheating partner must choose to be with their partner and commit to ending all connections with the other person.
Open and honest communication is essential. The betrayed partner should be allowed to ask questions and receive truthful answers about the affair. It is important to express emotions and release negative feelings in a healthy way.
Both partners need to work on getting things back to normal and rebuilding the relationship. This includes taking care of themselves, spending quality time together, and addressing any pre-existing issues in the relationship.
Forgiveness is the final stage, but it does not mean forgetting what happened. Difficult days may still arise in the future, but both partners need to accept this and continue moving forward as a happy couple. Seeking additional help or resources may be necessary for the healing process.
BEST MOMENTS
“If you love her, never fill her ears with lies, her mouth with words, her eyes with tears, her mind with confusion and her heart with pain.”
“Either he or she is trying to get you to feel guilty so you won’t want to talk about the affair, which essentially shuts you down and makes dealing with infidelity impossible.”
“They must promise not to accept contact or initiate contact with that outside person.”
“They did it and they are suffering the consequences. It was no one else’s fault.”
“Getting to this stage in the process is where your cheating partner can express what he or she needs to be happier.”
HOST BIO
Loraine is a blogger, digital creator, and author.
A former Property Management business owner spent a decade in HMO and family rentals before moving to Spain in 2016 with dreams of becoming fully retired and living in Spain with her partner, but that dream shattered in September 2020.
Loraine explains how she has now experienced the three D’s in relationship endings. Divorce, death of a partner and now discard, the abrupt termination of a relationship.
Currently working on rebuilding her life whilst living with three overlapping litigations post-separation including the threat of precarious eviction by a former partner.
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